Yeah I get this is my fitness blog – that it doesn’t have anything to do with *dating* per se…. but you see, the person I want to date is not me.
I want to date someone who is active.
I want to date someone who has a full life.
I want to date someone who has a good balance of physcial activity and relaxation.
I want to date someone who is just as comfortable going on a 5-10km hike as they are snuggled up on the couch watching a movie with a glass of wine.
It occurred to me, in the middle of my grief storm that I was not it.
And if *I* don’t want to date the person I am – what makes me think the person I’m looking for wants to date ME?
The reality is – no one is going to push me to do this journey. No one is going to say to me on a daily basis “hey – lets go get physical” they’re just going to bypass me.
It’s not that I think I have to be thin to date – I know I don’t. It’s that the things *I* want out of a potential partner? They’re the things I’m not… yet.
So if I want that person that like to go on hikes, I better get my ass hiking.
If I want the person who likes to work in the garden, I better get gardening.
If I want to find the person who likes to go to the gym, I’d better get there.
If I want the person who likes to be involved in community activities, I’d better get doing them.
BECAUSE THAT’S WHERE I’LL FIND THAT PERSON!!
I won’t find them on my couch, watching my tv, or in my own little home gym.
I’ll find them in the places I want to go with them.
My big epiphany: be the person you want to date. Because if you don’t – you’ll become Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride who had no idea what kind of eggs she liked. Or you’ll be come me, who let a man try to make her small and cut out vital parts of her personality.